It is difficult to avoid negative people and the energy they leave with us and our spaces. You may not even be aware of this energy.
“A person’s energy is a combination of a person’s past, their mindset, their dominant thoughts, and beliefs and their perception of the world. Sometimes that energy is easily felt, and other times it manifests as an instant like or dislike of a person you’ve just met (without having any obvious clues as to why you feel this way).”*
As a teenager, I remember being at a party where everyone was having a great time. People dancing to the music, laughing with others and feeling wonderful. When a group of boys entered the party, I noticed the room becoming a little quieter. The laughter diminished, some people stopped dancing and others went to different areas of the room. Have you ever noticed this happening at an event, at home or at work?
Now I understand the shift in the room was due to the boys negative energy. Even though the boys didn’t stay long at the party, the atmosphere never changed back to the previous energy. Their negative energy remained with us.
Unfortunately, negativity is contagious. Ever try to stay up beat during a conversation with someone who is criticizing or yelling at you? Were you able to stay happy and kind to them, or did you react back in a negative way? I know I have reacted negatively many times. Then get angry with myself for reacting the way I did.
Could this negativity affect our health? “The Department of Biological and Clinical Psychology at Friedrich Schiller University in Germany found that exposure to negative emotional stimuli—the same kind of exposure you get in the presence of complainers and otherwise negative people—caused subjects’ brains to have the same emotional reactions that they experienced when stressed. Your brain gets sucked into a negative emotional state when exposed to negative people, and— just like a stress response—the longer you endure this state the worse it is for your brain.” **
This stress can decrease our reasoning and memory the longer we are around negative people and environments.
Otherways negativity can affect you include the following:
- Internal negative thoughts towards yourself and/or others
- Losing control of your emotions
- Unrealistic fear
You can read more about this from “How Negative Energy Can Affect Your Life” by The Good Men Project.
You can stop these affects on your life once you become aware them and are willing to take action. Try some of these examples:
- Avoid being around negative people as much as you can
- Stop your internal negative thoughts
- Change the topic of the conversation when necessary
- Focus on solutions instead of the problems/emotions
Learn more about taking control of the energy around you at our class: “Letting Go of the Crabby, Complaining, and Negative Energy after the Holidays,”. Rev. Donna Bretz worked at the Department of Jobs & Family Services for 30 years. She found ways to cope with all of the negatives things about the environment. During the class she will share this information with you. Call 440-933-7733 to reserve your spot on Saturday, November 17, 2018.
*“Understanding Positive and Negative Energy in People” byMindvalley
**“How Negativity and Complaining Literally Rot Your Brain” by Dr.Travis Bradberry